Stoya is a force. She is the unflappable one fighting for a better porn industry. She is the loving one standing for the women. She is the fearless one accusing James Deen first of rape, paving the way for many more behind her. But after all that, Stoya is a greater force still—taking back her body, her dignity and her right to be sexualized just as she is. And part of that is about being a woman, sitting patiently and excitedly for her first grey pube.
On the train back to New York, I ask Stoya about a text she’d sent me a few days prior, in which she declared: “I know what I want from my 30s.” She nods. She’s been thinking more about how to make porn better, letting that quest animate her. Lately, she’s feeling excited about the idea of aging on-camera as a form of self-expression and of rebellion. “Ava wanting to show a sexualized trans body is what inspired me to say, Okay, I want to show a sexualized aging body,” she says. “And I’m really the best person positioned to do this.”