I have always maintained that to reach your potential, you need to marry the right partner. And in case after case I have found this to be true. I remember hearing author Brené Brown speak at a conference and matter-of-factly state that when she wrote her last book, her husband “left town with the kids because I always go into this Jackson Pollock crazy thing where I am just writing in my researcher mode.” You have to wonder what that time would have been like had Brené’s husband not been there for her. He is a true partner and he gave his wife the space to make her magic.
Every woman I’ve met who is reaching her potential is either single or has a true, 50 percent partner. If you want the slices of your pie to work, your partner is the essential first ingredient. Without an active and engaged teammate, your pie will crumble. I have yet to meet a successful, coupled woman who feels energized in her life but whose partner doesn’t support her dreams by chipping in at home and beyond.
Living with an uninvolved or negative partner is far worse than having no partner at all. An unsupportive partner will deplete you of your energy, strength, and optimism. Conversely, closing the “domestic gap” leads to a happier union, because your resentment will give way to greater friendship and intimacy, which in turn makes your whole family happier.