Disagreement and Charity

Whatever your political persuasion, we can all agree that the 2016 Election was a rough one. Perhaps your candidates won, perhaps they lost or perhaps some won and some lost. Maybe you're not politically active. Maybe you think it's all a sham. We come at our politics from a variety of angles influenced by our religious values, our race, ethnicity, where we live, what we do for a living, our life experiences, and many other factors.


This Connection newsletter goes to parents, alumni and benefactors and so I address this to the adults of our community. As adults, we have a responsibility to show our students how to live out our faith. In many ways, I've been proud of how the Bishop Kelley community has weathered this disagreeable election.


Administratively, we've worked with students to help them navigate the idea that we can disagree without being disagreeable. Charity (also known as love) should govern all our actions. The Catechism of the Catholic Church tells us that "Charity is the theological virtue by which we love God above all things for his own sake, and our neighbor as ourselves for the love of God." The Catechism goes on to say "The fruits of charity in our lives are joy, peace, and mercy."


Who in our world doesn't need more joy, more peace, and more mercy? That is why we, the adults in our students' lives, have the responsibility to show them how to disagree. As a Catholic and as a priest, I have strong feelings on many issues currently being debated in our politics. I support efforts to limit abortion. I support the traditional understanding of marriage as being between one man and one woman. These are traditionally "conservative" positions. I also believe, because of my faith, that the United States should take a greater lead in welcoming refugees. I think building a wall along the border of Mexico is a misguided policy. You may agree with me 100% or think I'm dead wrong. People in my own family and many of my friends don't see eye to eye on these issues. But I still love them. I still do my best to treat them with charity. I do it imperfectly but I pray that God will bring my efforts to perfection. This is, of course, not about me. It's about our students and our responsibility to help them navigate a world and spread the Gospel in a world that is increasingly hostile to charitable disagreement.

As 2017 gets underway, the current political climate continues to be toxic. What a beautiful opportunity to show our students that we can feel passionately about issues and can do so in a spirit of charity. May God make it so.

In Christ,

Rev. Brian O'Brien

This week, Bishop Kelley is joining schools across the nation to celebrate Catholic Schools. We welcomed a number of alumni and other professionals to speak to students for Career Day on Tuesday, January 31 and we'll celebrate an All-School Mass on Thursday, February 2. The week will end with five sold-out performances of "Beauty and the Beast", running February 2 through February 5. Great things are happening at Bishop Kelley!

Tulsa Mayor G. T. Bynum was one of over 30 speakers, including many alumni and BK parents, who spoke at Bishop Kelley for Career Day. Thanks to all of our speakers for taking time to share their love for their vocations with our students.

 Boys and Girls Basketball teams paired in playoffs to begin in February

Bishop Kelley will play in Class 5A East area for both boys and girls with playoff pairings scheduled to be released on Feb. 9 for the regional tournaments set to be played Feb. 23-25.

Bishop Kelley girls are paired with McAlester, Claremore, Collinsville, Coweta, Del City, Durant, East Central, Edison Prep, McAlester, Memorial, Hale, Noble, Pryor, Shawnee, Skiatook, and Tahlequah.

Bishop Kelley boys are paired in the East with Bishop McGuinness, Claremore, Collinsville. Coweta, Del City, Durant, East Central, Edison Prep, McAlester, Memorial, Hale, Northwest Classen, Pryor, Skiatook, and Tahlequah. 

"Beauty and the Beast" shows are sold out!

Online tickets to the February All-School Musical "Beauty and the Beast" were SOLD OUT within 24 hours. Remaining student tickets were sold to students during lunch on Friday, January 27. Thank you parents and alumni for your generous support of our Fine Arts and Drama Department. See you at the show!
Winter sports schedules

Bishop Kelley High School winter sports continues to roll with upcoming wrestling, swimming and basketball games.

Check the links below for the 2016-17 schedules.
Boys Basketball
Girls Basketball
Boys Swimming
Girls Swimming

Check to see upcoming action.

  student-athlete signing
period starts February 1

Soccer and football players can now sign letters of intent to colleges. Contact Athletic Director Lance Parks at if you have a student-athlete who plans to sign with a college this spring.

Ryan Patrick and Father O'Brien
Ryan will play football for the University of Tulsa next year.

Six soccer players signed on February 1.
Back row: Austin Wormell, Creighton University, Ben Barkley, St. Louis University, and
Adam Habib, University of Tulsa
Front row: Meredith Wilson, University of Central Oklahoma, Ellie Chapple, Sam Houston State, and
Maggie Ertl, Arkansas State

Registration dates for remaining ACT and SAT tests 2016-2017


ACT TEST DATES                        REGISTRATION DEADLINE         

April 8, 2017 (at BK)                      March 3, 2017

June 10, 2017                                May 5, 2017


SAT TEST DATES                             REGISTRATION DEADLINE

March 11, 2017 (No Subject Tests offered)             February 10, 2017                      
May 6, 2017                                        April 7, 2017
June 3, 2017                                       May 9, 2017

Questions? Please contact Maureen Lawler or call 918-627-3390 x117 in the BK Counseling office.To register for these tests, please visit and

April 19 is ACT test for juniors

Juniors and Junior Parents:

On April 19th Bishop Kelley will be administering the ACT with Writing to all juniors. This ACT is referred to as a State/District test.  What is most important for you is that this test is an official ACT that colleges and universities will use for admission and scholarship. Juniors will complete the registration process in school and there is no cost to students.  

Bishop Kelley is a national test center so we will be administering the April 8th ACT. Juniors may register for this test but registration occurs at the ACT web site and there is a cost.  If you have any questions, please contact Maureen Lawler ( or 918-627-3390 ext 117) in the Guidance office.

ACT Prep Classes

ACT Prep leading up to the April 19 ACT test begins after school on Monday, March 20. Registration is required. Click here for details and the registration form.

Spring concert coming...
Mark your calendars for Tuesday, February 28th!

PTO Parent Club Activities


Club 19

Moms' Movie Night
Warren Theatre, 1700 Aspen Circle, Broken Arrow

Details to come.

Monthly Lunch
Thursday, February 23
12 p.m. / Charleston’s, 6839 S Yale Ave

RSVP to Yadi Boykin at 918-500-4220 or


Club 20

Freshman Family Night
Friday February 10
6 p.m. / Hideaway Pizza, 8222 East 103rd St.(103rd & Memorial)

Club 2020 T-Shirts will be available for pick up.
Please RSVP to or text 918-277-9562.


Monthly Lunch
Thursday February 23
Noon / Lyons’ Home - 2831 East 28th Street

Ashley Eakin Neal (Bishop Kelley Class of '89) of Local Farm OK will serve a healthy lunch featuring hydroponically grown, locally produced foods. Come join us for this fun, healthy, and educational event.
Cost: $5
Club 2020 T-Shirts will be available for pick up.
Please RSVP to or text 918-277-9562.

Get active with Club 20

Club 20 will be starting a walking group. If you are interested please email your preferred day and time to


If you have suggestions for monthly lunches or events for Club 20, please send them to or call/text Kathryn at 918-277-9562.

 Comet Sightings

Eastern Oklahoma Catholic in December 2016 reported that Fr. O'Brien and 20 BK students from the St. Joseph of Arimethea Community went to Calvary Cemetery where 500 cremains were laid to rest.

Matt Smith '17 (1st team at LB) and Jack Griffin '18 (2nd team at DB) were selected for the Tulsa area VYPE Football Team.

Shelby Flahive '19 was a keynote speaker at Tulsa's March for Life. BK students carried the banner during last month's march.

Katherine Soulé '17, Michael Hanisch '19, and Kelly Steichen '17 performed last month at Tulsa's PAC with the all-state choir. Ashleigh Teygong '18 performed with the orchestra.

BK students Lauren Bush '18, Zach Lissau '19, and Marcus Lyons '17 are participating in the Mayor's Youth Council for the City of Tulsa. The council meets twice a month: once for a meeting at City Hall and the second for a field trip to learn more about the city.

For more BK Comet Sightings, check out BK news on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram

Trivia Night was a great success; over 1,500 attended

Trivia Night 2017 was a great success. More than 1,500 friends gathered at BK and raised over $59,000 for Bishop Kelley High School.     

Thank you to the BK Class of 1992 who were our host class for the event.  

  • Thank you to the 101 volunteers who served concessions, waited on tables, ran scoresheets to judges, sold tickets, judged, input scores, assisted judges, made popcorn, and just about anything you can imagine to keep 1,420 Trivia players happy. We appreciate you!

  • Thank you to Kristi Grisaffe '92, Sharon '81 and Chris Victor '81, Ray Hornak '79 and Rick Hornak '80 who work on Bishop Kelley Trivia Night each year.  We could not do it without you!

  • Thank you to all who bought tables; 45 Sponsor tables and 97 standard tables.

The winners of Trivia 2016 were:

1st Place – Cobb Team

Tie for 2nd Place – Tierney 2 Team and the Saxon Punishers Team

3rd Place – Margaret Hartley Team

The 50/50 Raffle raised $3,868 for Bishop Kelley and the same amount for a happy 50/50 winner.

Thank you to the following generous sponsors: A&B Distributors, Emily '02 and Jason Moreau '02, Kristen and Justin Moreau '02; Kristi '92 and Rob Grisaffe '92; Halo Branded Solutions, Brad Anthamatten '79; Jarboe Sales Co., Carrie and J.B. Jarboe '89; Neurosurgery Specialists, Dr. Daniel Boedeker M.D.  '92

Save the Date for Trivia Night 2018 - January 20, 2018 
Online reservations will be open for Sponsor tables on September 18, 2017 and Standard Tables October 9, 2017. Please email or call Robin at 918-609-7114 to volunteer.

 Spirit Store hours are convenient

The Spirit Store will be open during lunch hours from 11:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. Tuesday through Friday. The store is located in the BK Cafeteria. 

Contact or call 918.627.3390. Thank you for supporting Bishop Kelley with your purchase. Cash, Check, Visa, MasterCard, Discover, and American Express are accepted.  

 Speech and Debate
Tournament Dates for 2017

January 27-28, Sapulpa
February 3-4, Broken Arrow
February 24-25, Jenks
March 2-4, Districts
March 24-25, Regionals

Save the Date for the 2017 Angelo Prassa Memorial Golf Tournament

The 2017 Angelo Prassa Memorial Golf Tournament will be held Monday, Sept. 11, 2017. Please mark your calendar and plan to support BK students. Watch your email this summer for details or contact Katherine Devonshire at

Kelleywood – Lights, Camera, Auction

Join us for a night of fun and fundraising at Kelleywood – Lights, Camera, Auction, the 37th Annual Bishop Kelley Auction on the BK campus April 22, 2017.  Enjoy delicious food, music, a Live and Silent Auction, dinner, a raffle of a beautiful Ippolita necklace and earring set from Bruce G. Weber, a wine pull, and a fun and glamorous paparazzi-worthy evening with the Bishop Kelley community.
Some of the fabulous Live and Silent Auction items are:
  • Hooray for Holy-wood
    A beautiful woodworking piece carved by Bishop Konderla.
  • La La Land
    Two tickets to the American music Awards Show in Los Angeles on November 19, 2017. Includes airfare, three nights of luxury accommodations and two tickets to The Grammy Museum.
  • How the West Was Won
    A week at a Star Valley Ranch cabin in Jackson Hole, Wyoming.
  • Finding Nemo
    A week in Cabo (July 22-29) at the Diamante resort, a paradise of beauty, privacy, luxury, and world class service.
  • Men in Black
    Our always popular Priests’ Dinner for ten at the beautiful home of Beth and Randall Snapp.
  • Happy Gilmore
    Golf at The Oaks Country Club, Tulsa Country Club, Forest Ridge, and Battlecreek.
  • Hoop Dreams
    Four tickets to the 2017 KU vs. OSU basketball game. Meet Coach Bill Self prior to the game.
  • Fast and Furious
    A “new driver” package that includes a driver education class at Oklahoma Driving School, a AAA membership, and a window-tint and oil change from Bob Hurley Ford.
  • Many more fabulous packages include a Pitch Perfect 1 and 2 (BOK Concerts), The Devil Wears Prada (Ladies Shopping Spree), Footloose (Party at Rucker Warehouse), and Casino Royale (Downstream Casino Weekend).
Go here today to make your Patron or Individual reservations for Kelleywood. Patrons will be invited to a special party for patrons on April 6th that you won’t want to miss so make your patron reservation today!
February Girl and Boy of the Month

Congratulations to Jessi Gomez and Mason Mercer!

A member of the 2016 All-State Volleyball Team, Jessi has shared her talents in a variety of other activities during her time at Bishop Kelley.  A three-year member of the varsity volleyball team, she has also served as a Comet Ambassador and a member of Link Crew along with being involved in the French Club and the Food Club. Outside of school, Jessi plays club volleyball and serves as a leader in Lifekids, a ministry at LifeChurch where she attends.  Jessi has narrowed her college choices to Arizona State and Arkansas and intends to major in Biochemistry and minor in French with the goal of becoming a dentist. While Jessi’s favorite memory of her time at Bishop Kelley was winning state during junior year, it is the support from teachers, coaches, and friends that has made a lasting impression.  “That’s what defines Kelley for me.”
Mason’s years at Bishop Kelley have encompassed a cross-section of activities from Student Council to the Ultimate Frisbee Club; from Class Board to the Spanish Club. He also enjoys a good discussion as a member of the Dumb Ox Club.  His talents extend to giving impromptu renditions of the entire Marines’ Hymn from memory in his U.S. History class. Outside of Kelley, Mason attends Quest at Christ the King and lifeguards at Southern Hills during the summer. Mason's favorite memory of Bishop Kelley is going to the football games on Friday nights and cheering with the student section. He plans to be wearing orange and majoring in Computer Science this fall at Oklahoma State.

Can't Afford College?  Yes, You Can!

The state of Oklahoma will help pay college tuition through Oklahoma’s Promise.  This program is open to students in the 8th, 9th, and 10th grade whose family income is $50,000 or less and who agree to meet certain academic requirements and conduct standards. The requirements for the Oklahoma’s Promise program are described below:
**Be an Oklahoma resident
**Graduate from an Oklahoma high school
**Take 17 units of high school courses and achieve at least a 2.5 cumulative G.P.A. in those courses (4 English, 3 Lab Science, 3 Math, 3 History and Citizenship, 2 Foreign Language or Computer courses, 1 additional course from those listed, and 1 Fine Art course)
**Achieve a cumulative G.P.A. of at least 2.5 for all courses in grades 9-12
**Achieve at least a 2.5 G.P.A. in the 17 cores courses listed above
**Attend school regularly
**Do your homework
**Stay away from drugs and alcohol
**Don’t commit a crime or a delinquent act
**Apply for other financial aid during your senior year of high school
For more information, contact Maureen Lawler in the guidance office or go to or email  Students may now apply on-line for the program at

Bishop Kelley to host traveling exhibit during Black History Month

In recognition of Black History Month during the month of February, the Bishop Kelley Library will be hosting an exhibit on loan from Kennesaw State University titled “The Tuskegee Airmen: The Segregated Skies of World War II." It depicts the history and heroism of the airmen who began training in a segregated program at Tuskegee Army Airfield in 1941. It is a collaborative project of KSU’s Museum of History and Holocaust Education and public history students who served as curators with assistance from the Tuskegee University Archives and the Tuskegee Airmen National Historic Site, both in Tuskegee, Alabama, and the Atlanta branch of the Tuskegee Airmen, Inc.

The 10-panel exhibit features historic images from the Library of Congress, the National Archives and the Tuskegee University Archives, including many photos by renowned photographer Toni Frissell. The display presents the broad history as well as intimate portraits of the more than 1,000 pilots who trained over five years. As a result of their heroic combat missions and the service of more than 16,000 support personnel, President Harry Truman was influenced to integrate the military in 1948. The exhibit will be featured in the library's lobby, and will run February 6-17.

If you graduated in a year ending in 2 or 7,
2017 is your reunion year!

Bishop Kelley's Reunion Weekend:
June 16 - 17, 2017

Formal invitation with details to follow in the Spring.
If you have any questions about your reunion,
please contact Katherine Devonshire '09,
Director of Alumni Relations,
at or 918-609-7146.

We're coming to Dallas!
Father O'Brien and Katherine Devonshire will be in Dallas for an Alumni Gathering on Friday, May 12th. If you live in the Dallas-Fort Worth area, we hope to see you! Watch for details.

Let us know what's happening in your life!
With over 10,000 alumni, we want to make sure we get to share and celebrate important moments in your life.  If you have any sort of news, event, or announcement happen in your life that you want to share with your fellow alumni, please click here for your information to be included in our quarterly Alumni Updates. Contact Director of Alumni Relations, Katherine Devonshire if you have questions at

Weekly Alumni Update
Check out the BK Facebook page each Thursday for Throwback Thursday #TBT to identify alumni from yearbooks past and present. Recall fond memories and stay connected to BK. 

February 2017 Calendar

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