Do you ever wonder what your future self is going to remember about your present self? If yes, it’s totally normal…well, at least I hope it is. In recent conversations with friends and family, this idea keeps popping up. Whenever I’m stressed, anxious, or in a bad mood — I try to reframe the present to reflect more positive memories than negative ones for my future self. If all we have in the future are our memories, wouldn’t you want the majority of them to be positive?
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“How do some people seem to wind up with advocates everywhere? They create a little mental model of themselves that makes it easy for everybody they meet. Everybody has a “projection” – a small representation – of each person they know living in their heads.” — Ben Reinhardt
Be memorable: “In order to maximize the effectiveness of your projections, figure out which things you want to be associated within people’s heads and be excited about them. Nothing is more memorable than distinct excitement. Similarly, try to figure out the things that drive whomever you’re talking to and incorporate them into your mental representation of that person. The best way to encourage people to keep you in mind is to keep them in mind.” — Ben Reinhardt
Making asks: “…is often uncomfortable for smart successful people – you want to get by on your own and be so awesome that people will figure out how to help you on your own. This is not going to happen. On the other hand, if you have a clear actionable ask, people are eager to jump on it.” — Ben Reinhardt
Make meetings great before they even start: “Since relationships are built through 1-1 interactions, you can’t build meaningful relationships without 1-1 meetings.
Say what you want to talk about during the meeting in the email. It makes it easy for them to say yes and it gives you both a little reminder when you go back and check the email right before the meeting.
Anchor the conversation with 2-3 options around both time and place.
[Send a] calendar Invite. Busy folks live by their calendars, so make it easy for them to remember the meeting – where/when it’s happening, who it’s with, and possibly what it’s about.” — Ben Reinhardt
My two cents: Networking can oftentimes be pretty uncomfortable. For whatever reason, it’s always felt artificial and transactional. I’m not entirely sure why I view it this way, but it’s one of those things that I know I can’t pessimistically view forever. As with most things, there are spectrums and framings that level out reasonings for things. I need to reframe my views around networking or forever feel stuck on the sidelines. Be on the lookout for more networking curations and feel free to share any valuable ones to our subreddit here.
I highly suggest consuming the full piece here (9 min. read time)
“In many cases, drops are only available in limited supply, at certain times, in specific locations — creating a high-effort gate to access the product. Because of this, items purchased in a drop grant higher status than if purchased by another mechanism.” — Mario Gabriele
Downsides to scarcity: “This is the problem faced by any app that trades on scarcity. Limiting invites and charming influencers may yield a long waitlist and rabid testers, but status diminishes the larger the user base grows. In that respect, apps like Clubhouse have negative network effects, as the ratio of famous person to fan decreases.” — Mario Gabriele
If done correctly: “If we accept that scarcity drives status if correctly applied, and that humans will change their behavior and open their wallets to attain status, creating it reliably and repeatedly should be valuable.” — Mario Gabriele
Gamifying status: “This is how we are built, though. To compete, and chase, and accumulate ribbons. There is much money to be made in directing desire for status, with drops proving a particularly fruitful mechanism. They’ve escalated in importance in the last decade, changing marketing in apparel and beyond.” — Mario Gabriele
My two cents: A fascinating article as always from Mario. This is one of his older posts, but I highly recommend checking out his blog The Generalist. An evil of the scarcity API is that of software companies programmatically “dropping” new features only to users with sufficient engagement. While this is quite evil, I think smart contracts will unlock so many opportunities to reward users in the future (hopefully in a less evil way).
I highly suggest consuming the full piece here (13 min. read time)
“Broadly, people seem to wish for a more meaningful life. They wished they’d been more authentic in their activities. They wished they’d prioritized friends and themselves, rather than work. They wished, in short, that they’d stopped and smelled the roses.” — Neil Levy
Faulty advice from elders: “…the dying might be subject to hindsight bias, in the form of a tendency to assume that their current epistemic perspective looking back on the past is identical to the perspective they should have adopted at the time.” — Neil Levy
Who to take advice from: American philosopher Eric Schwitzgebel, “suggests that we might do better to prefer the wisdom of 40-somethings: those who have experienced enough to have a broad perspective on life, but who still have a stake in living.”
Telic vs. Atelic:“American philosopher Kieran Setiya argues that these crises can arise because, as we complete our projects, they lose their meaning for us. These projects are telic: they have a goal, and it’s our commitment to this goal that makes them meaningful to us. Once we’ve achieved that goal, they come to seem absurd. Setiya counsels us to ward off the midlife crisis by finding value in the atelic: in activities that don’t have a goal beyond themselves…” — Neil Levy
My two cents: Who would’ve thought that the advice given to younger generations from the dying could be critiqued so sharply. It feels sort of wrong to question your elders, but I can’t deny the points raised are (maybe) something to keep in mind.
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