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When the end time comes – Be the remedy
You have not heard from me in a while and here is why
A friend of over thirty years emailed me in July saying she had advanced cancer with a limited time to live. There was no real choice – I drove 1300 km to see her and help out the family.
Getting ready to travel up, clearing the decks on jobs I was part way through, working out what else I needed to do on the way there. That took a week almost and I was anxious that time was short.
Its a long trip in a Land cruiser ute – taking three days hoping I would be in time and that we would be able to talk in person.
This lady and her husband had been combined Uncle and Aunt, Mother and Father to both myself and my closest friend. I had stayed at their home many times and even bought a house from them.
It was my turn to be an Adult and be part of the cavalry to come over the hill to help out.
Packing for the journey I was faced with the decision of what remedies do I take, what books, how can I help her in a medical sense even though things had advanced to a very serious stage?
Reflecting on how to help it came to me that being there and telling her I loved her and giving thanks for all the help over the years was the medicine needed for the situation.
As it turned out that was exactly right – This lady was in hospital and in such a dire situation that coming home was not an option.
Cooking food, tidying the house, giving support to her husband and daughter, taking rubbish and recycling to the tip, landscaping the yard and keeping morale up was the medicine I gave. The remedy was my presence and support.
It was a time to be standing in the solidarity of this long relationship of over thirty years, paying back some of the love and connection - Being an Adult