"I want to read a passage from one of his lectures, which I think is one of the greatest things he ever wrote and which has been a marvelous thing for me. It was in a lecture that he delivered to a group of clergymen in Switzerland a considerable number of years ago. And he writes:
'People forget that even doctors have moral scruples and that certain patient’s confessions are hard even for a doctor to swallow. Yet the patient does not feel himself accepted unless the very worst of him is accepted too. No one can bring this about by mere words. It comes only through reflection and through the doctor’s attitude towards himself and his own dark side. If the doctor wants to guide another or even accompany him a step of the way, he must feel with that person’s psyche...
We cannot change anything unless we accept it.
Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses.
I am the oppressor of the person I condemn,
not his friend and fellow sufferer...
I do not in the least mean to say that we must never pass judgment when we desire to help and improve. But, if the doctor wishes to help a human being, he must be able to accept him as he is. And he can do this in reality only when he has already seen and accepted himself as he is.
Perhaps this sounds very simple,
but simple things are always the most difficult.
In actual life, it requires the greatest art to be simple.
And so, acceptance of oneself is the essence of the moral problem,
and the acid test of one’s whole outlook on life.'"