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      Note from Rabbi

Cracking Open The Gates to Prayer:  
A Celebration!
Every discipline, every art or science has a vocabulary of its own.  No one would imagine that she could become a musician without knowing the terms staccato, pianissimo, or crescendo.  Can one play baseball seriously without knowing the meaning of slide, steal and sacrifice?  Judaism, too, has a unique set of words and symbols that allow us to participate meaningfully in the life of the Jewish spirit.  How familiar are we with the Jewish terms and notions that comprise the Jewish vocabulary?  Have you experienced davenning, chanted an amidah, or gathered your tzitzit?  Without a solid understanding of our own vocabulary, we will find it difficult to access fully and completely the richness of all that Judaism has to offer. 
The value and import of the Jewish vocabulary is especially true in developing a Jewish prayer life.  As with any discipline,  the reward of Jewish prayer comes only after the investment of a certain commitment of time, energy, and effort.  When time is so limited for us, however, making such a commitment to come to services regularly is not easy.  There are so many other things clamoring for our time and attention:  chores, family time, recreation, simply relaxing...the list is endless.  To further complicate matters, the decision to make attending Jewish prayer services a priority is that much more difficult when we are not even sure what’s in it for us.  In other words, if I am going to put this much in how am I going to benefit in some meaningful way?  We all want to see some results, don’t we?
This is not a simple question to answer, nor will the answer necessarily be the same for every person.  It is quite obvious to us, though, that to play a musical instrument or any sport well one must devote significant hours to practicing and building technical skills.  The same is true of cultivating Jewish life skills.  Only people are not accustomed to thinking about spiritual matters like prayer in such a manner.  We generally expect to go to synagogue, have a “successful and satisfying” experience and go on with our lives.  But what happens with prayer?  The first time (or even few times) we attempt coming to services, we feel awkward and unsure exactly what to do.  We don’t know the words, the order of the service, the music, which all adds to our general sense of incompetence. Often our initial experiences are not spiritually satisfying at all, and, indeed, sometimes exactly the opposite. 
Prayer, however, operates on a totally different channel than the one we are used to using.  In this realm, the emphasis is not on the cognitive, what we know, but on our affective emotional self, what we feel.  How often in our day do we have an opportunity to give voice to our deepest, most personal feelings?  In prayer, we don’t move in linear time, we experience eternal time.  How energizing to expand our vision and touch something that is beyond time, experience something that links us to our past and our future.  While praying, we step outside of ourselves and join with a community and the greater oneness of the entire world, which is God. 
Prayer can, over time, open up new ways of experiencing our world and finding our place in it.  It is a refreshing break from the normal rush of routine as we slow ourselves down and refocus on what truly matters.  Prayer builds an incredible sense of connection and community.  There is really nothing like it. 
On the Shabbat of January 23rd, we will celebrate three wonderful women becoming bat mitzvah—Merry Draffan, Meredith Brownstein, and Sharon McCorkell—who have dedicated a year and a half to learning more about Jewish prayers and prayer life, deepening their connection to the spiritual practices of our people, and undertaking their own personal Jewish journeys. We hope that you will join us for this special shabbat. But even more important: In the process, do your self a favor and come see what many have already come to discover--the secret benefits of prayer in our community. Consider becoming a part of our dedicated minyan of Shabbat regulars each week and give yourself the gift that will give back to you all week long.    
With blessings,

Rabbi Greg
January Bat Mitzvahs

All Shabbat morning services begin at 10:00 a.m., and each Bat Mitzvah will be followed by a kiddush luncheon in the Social Hall:
  • Lily Frohlich, Saturday, January 9
  • Brianna Singer, Saturday, January 16
  • Adult Bat Mitzvah of Meredith Brownstein, Merry Draffan and Sharon McCorkell, Saturday, January 23
  • Marley Adler, Saturday, January 30
The families look forward to sharing their celebrations with the community!
Friday, February 5, 6:00 p.m.
Please join us as we celebrate Shabbat with our neighbors. Potluck Shabbat dinners will be hosted in Davis and Woodland neighborhoods.

All ages are welcome to attend — singles, couples and families with young children. 

Please let us know if you want to host by sending an e-mail to Michael Bobell (
or Carla Levin (
Challah, candles and juice will be provided, and a CBH facilitator will be at each dinner to help.                  
Jewish Family Service Caregivers Support Group Continues at CBH

Morning Group:  Wednesdays January 20 and February 3, 10:00 a.m. - 11:30 a.m., CBH Library
Evening Group:  Wednesdays January 20, February 3, February 17, March 2 and March 16, 6:30-8:00 p.m., CBH South Classroom

Open to spouses, family members, and friends who are acting as caregivers for a loved one. The group has an emphasis on those providing care to their aging parents, and provides a warm environment in which participants receive support and strategies to address the unique needs and stresses of caregiving.

Facilitated by Jane Zeiger, LCSW.  Space is limited.  $60 for 6 sessions. For more information, or to RSVP, contact JFS Community Social Worker Alicia Mittleman at 916-205-0688.
December Donations

Rabbi’s Discretionary Fund

Nancy Loeb Williams
In memory of her father Frank L. Loeb’s yahrzeit, and in honor of Carrie Shepard for her assistance with Nancy’s Torah portion
Bob and Sheila Beyer 
In honor of Jerry Suran’s 90th birthday
Nancy and Norman Rossen           
In honor of Marley Adler’s upcoming Bat Mitzvah
Libby and Gene Renkin
In memory of Gene’s mother, Nettie Renkin
Claire and Richard Bradley

Israel Matters Program Fund

Gail and Barry Klein
In honor of Jerry Suran’s birthday
Norma and Larry Rappaport

Sacred Book Fund

Hallie Morrow
In loving memory of her father, Abe Wahl
If you notice any errors or omissions, please contact Leah at
Todah Rabah!
In Hebrew, e-tone
In English, newspaper
January 2016 EDITION
Click here to view the January Torah Notes
Sunday, January 10
Israel Matters presents:
“3300+ Years of
Jewish History in Israel”

3:00-5:00 p.m., CBH Social Hall
Join Israel Matters Chair George Rooks as he traces the continuous presence of Jews in Israel from the time of Abraham’s arrival in Canaan.  Focusing on archaeological evidence from primarily non-Jewish sources, he will lead a journey through the hundreds of years of Jewish kingdoms, the assaults of Egyptians, Moabites, Assyrians, Babylonians, Persians, Macedonians, Romans and others.  

Additionally, George will note subsequent declines and rises in the Jewish population of the land (including a majority in Jerusalem in the 1800's), and the exciting developments of the 20th century. This talk is a reprise of George’s exciting talk five years ago — updated with the newest discoveries!
Contact for more details or questions.
Sunday, January 10
The Art of Zentangle
12:30 PM, CBH Social Hall
The Art of Zentangle ® is an easy to learn and relaxing method of creating beautiful images from repetitive patterns.

This workshop instructs you on the basic process of the Zentangle Method. Lee Miller will be your instructor. She is a Certified Zentangle Teacher, and she will teach you step-by-step how to draw tangles (the structured patterns of Zentangle). Each student will complete two tiles. The class includes everything needed for this two-hour session.
Pre-registration by this Friday, January 8 is required; sign up with Leah in the CBH office at
here to view the flyer.
Wednesday, January 25
“J Street:  Looking Back at 2015 and Forward to 2016”
7:00-9:00 p.m., CBH Social Hall
Kyle Fradkin, J Street Northwest Regional Political and Community Associate, will speak about J Street’s work to secure approval of the Iran nuclear deal, as well as the situation on the ground with the Israeli-Palestinian conflict and recent violence.  He will look ahead to the upcoming U.S. presidential election, including Jewish voting patterns, and possibilities for the next administration.
This program is free and open to the public, and is sponsored by Israel Peace Alternatives.  For more information, visit
Join us for Kabbalat Shabbat
on January 29

Services will start at 7:30 p.m. with our special musical guest Michelle Citrin.  

A very talented Jewish musician, Michelle will also be leading services on Saturday, Jan. 30 with Rabbi Greg.  For more about Michelle Citrin see
   Friday Night Onegs    

Thanks to Mark Joske, Angela Wapner and the Draffans for a lovely Shabbat celebration of Long Marriages and Partnerships on Friday, December 18.  Family and friends also recently enjoyed sharing a Shabbat Chinese Dinner after services on Friday, December 25th.
If you have ideas for innovative Oneg Shabbats or Friday night guest speakers, please email Merry Draffan at Hosts are needed for February and March; also contact Merry to 
sign up for these or any 2016 dates.
Most importantly, plan to join your Jewish friends at an Oneg Shabbat this month, celebrating January's joyous simchas: 
  • January 8, 6:00 p.m., hosted by the Payne-Frolich Family to honor Lily’s Bat Mitzvah
  • January 15, 8:00 p.m., hosted by the Singer Family to honor Brianna’s Bat Mitzvah
  • January 22, 8:00 p.m., hosted by Rosh Chodesh to honor the Adult Bat Mitzvah of Meredith Brownstein, Merry Draffan and Sharon McCorkell
  • January 29, 7:30 p.m., hosted by the Kubby-Adler Family to honor Marley’s Bat Mitzvah
January Birthdays
1       Ozgur Batuman   
      Larry Rabin, Sven-Erik Rose, Jacob Rutheiser            
3       Amanda Richman
5       David Foos,  Tzipora Goldkorn, Joel Gussman, Hilary Philipps       
6       Daniel Abramson, Ariel Axelrad-Hausman
8       Christoph Gumb, Jack Nitzkin, Jonathan White       
9       Elise Goldman, Mark Haffer, Jacob Marder, Maurice Pitesky, Shoshana Zatz       
10     Maki Kubey, Daniel Renkin          
11     Karen Neuwald, Jerome Suran       
12     Holden Kass, Skyler Mikalson, Stacy Shwartz Olagundoye, Nancy Sternberg, Caren Weintraub                       
13     Nathan Feldman, Terra Mikalson                
14     David Feldman, Lucille Fineberg, Jonathan London, Anna White                            
16     Emma Applebaum, Lynn Simon                           
17     Xochitl Castaneda, Barbara Israel                        
18     Daniel Borack                         
19     Marilyn Clark, Eugene Elzufon, Amina Harris, Sarah Hastings                        
20     Alma Drabkin, Louis Isaacson, Marion Cantor Warner                  
21     Lily Frohlich, Ariel Schwarz, Galen Steele                    
22     Linda Gardner                         
23     Allison Scher                         
24     Daniel Berliner, Kristen Gong, Janet Meizel
25     Michael Amster, Rabbi Seth Castleman, Joanna Stone                          
26     Zach Creinin, Sarah Sherwood                       
27     Linda Bresnick                                
28     Judy Rothschild, Leo Singer                            
29     Ezra Amsterdam, Maya Kuppermann, Nancy Loeb Williams                   
30     Elisabeth Dubin, David Rappaport                       
31     Joshua Barrett, John Hunter, Sandra Kniep, Rosalee Whithaus
January Yahrzeits
1     Michael Feldman, observed by Gail Klein
1     Nettie Renkin, observed by Eugene Renkin 
1     Irwin Wapner, observed by Angela Wapner
4     Irma Gusfield, observed by Dan Gusfield
5     Helen M. Sherwood, observed by Walt Sherwood      
7     Jacob Siegel, observed by Annette Montgomery       
10   Louis Kniep, observed by John Kniep    
11   Milton Green, observed by Iris Tennenbaum 
11   Elsie Rappaport, observed by Larry Rappaport   
12   Helen Siegel, observed by David Siegel
13   Nathan Clairfield, observed by Jerry Adler
14   Frances Franck, observed by Marion Franck
14   Samuel Leavitt, observed by Allan Leavitt
15   Lillian Berman, observed by Mark Berman
17   Erna Biberstein, observed by Ernie Biberstein
17   Albion Block, observed by David Block
17   Ellen Kagan, observed by Linda Ziskind
17   Marcus Young, observed by Stanley Young
18   Betty Hascal, observed by Sandra Kniep
18   Charles Shepard, observed by Carrie Chepard
19   Lisa Roselle, observed by Amy Levin
20   Victor Eichler, observed by Ann Teal 
21   Francis Curtis, observed by Jim Curtis
23   Eugenie Dye, observed by Catherine Bernstein Huez
23   David Sternberg, observed by Linda Sternberg
24   George Moore, observed by Diane Moore
26   Harry Russell, observed by Elizabeth Renkin
27   Hali Titche, observed by Alan Titche & Beth Tausczik
29   Joseph Radding, observed by Pearl Carpenter
29   Mitch Singer, observed by Helen Suran
29   Jennifer Switzer, observed by Robert Smith
30   Bertha Mandel, observed by Rosanne Mandel
30   Stella Tennenbaum, observed by Dan Tennenbaum
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